I have often wondered why many women do not seem to truly believe in what they are capable of and are not usually as confident as men. Men have a certain calm, confidence, and charisma about them and often go after what they want without any self-doubt or whatsoever- whether this is replicated internally, I am unsure.
Of course the above does not apply to everyone as with most things in life, but it is the more common case than not.
You have probably heard of the following statistic: Men apply for a job when they meet only 60% of the criteria however women apply only if they meet 100% of the criteria. Many women believe that they wouldn’t be hired unless they met all the qualifications and as a result, are hesitant to put themselves out there in case of failure.
Evidence suggests that women are less self-assured than men and that in order to succeed, confidence matters just as much as competence. It seems that a lack of confidence is overwhelmingly a ‘female thing’.
Often, women who are both confident and competent still experience self-doubt as they are more self-critical which can hold them back from incredible success otherwise known as breaking the glass ceiling.
In business and in general, men tend to get promoted faster and are paid more than women.
Some say that children change the priorities of women as they are excellent multi-taskers and therefore wear multiple ‘hats’ so they divide their time accordingly and are willing to ‘settle’ for a lesser role than they are capable of in the workplace.
You Can’t Have It All If You Do It All!
In many instances, women bear the majority of household, family, and child-care responsibilities and unfortunately, pay the career consequences. Successful women plan their careers and don’t attempt to do it all. Many successful women have assistance around the home and delegate chores instead of doing it all themselves.
I honestly don’t believe that women value their worth and ability anywhere near enough. We tend to be overly critical and judgmental of ourselves. We beat ourselves up if we are not perfect and don’t have every area of our lives under control.
I have discovered that many of the women in my circle of friends use the word ‘should’ way too much: “I should have gone to the gym this morning”, “I should have put on a load of washing before I left for work” or “I should have achieved more today”.
Why are we ‘shoulding’ all over ourselves? When we say should, we are dis-empowering ourselves and create a feeling of guilt or shame. This is not a healthy mindset to have.
Choosing to follow your dreams, goals, passions, and instincts (without harming others) is the key to creating an incredible life. As you carefully consider and then choose what brings joy to your life, you naturally assist others.
Health comes first
As busy multi-tasking women, it is imperative that we maintain a healthy lifestyle for our overall health and to maximize our productivity. If we eat junk or processed food, fill our bodies with foods that are not nutritious, our bodies don’t get the essential nutrients it needs to function effectively. This can lead to lethargy, forgetfulness, weight gain, bad skin and so on.
Staying fit not only equates to a lean physique; moderate exercise of at least 30 minutes 5 times each week helps to release endorphins that help your body manage stress, fight fatigue, and keep you alert.
Time Management is Key
Use a diary or calendar to keep track of your schedule and commitments so you know where you are spending your time.
You will need to be able to say ‘No’ sometimes. You cannot do everything so you need to prioritise what is important to you. What is your intention? What do you want to accomplish?
Women are often nurturing by nature and love to help others. We readily assist and often this comes at a cost to ourselves.
I am not saying that you should become selfish. Assist where you can but also try to stay on track with your own goals and productivity.
We all have tasks or chores that we simply do not enjoy yet they still need to be done. One of the worst things you can do is put it off. Get it done, get it over with, and move on to something you actually do enjoy.
Tackle less enjoyable tasks in little blocks of time regularly so they do not build up to require a large portion of time in one go. Less enjoyable tasks can be a great antidote to insomnia if you choose to do them right before bed time.
If the tasks you dislike the most are not overly challenging perhaps have someone else does them for you whilst they earn pocket money. This is a win-win situation where you can then focus on something more enjoyable while the ‘other’ task is undertaken as well while making for a very productive time.
Work on Your Personal Development
Personal development is a powerful tool that can take you from where you currently are to where you want to be. Personal development is about investing in yourself, personal growth, learning, and seeking to become the best version of yourself.
Growth and contribution are the ultimate human needs. If we stop growing (as in personal growth) and don’t feel that we contribute, we become creatures of habit and ultimately this is both unsatisfying and unrewarding. There is no fulfilment in remaining stagnant.
Find your true purpose in life (what brings you joy, empowers you and energises you) to have a life filled with more meaning and more fulfilment. Utilise your individual source of strength and meaning, conquer your limitations and resolve inner conflicts (to prevent your mindset from wavering) in order to really thrive.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Not everything has to be perfect! As we live in a world where time is limited, for us to focus on what matters we must take time away from what doesn’t. If you had to put a value on your time, what is it worth? If there was a task that could be done elsewhere costing you less in time, would it be worth it? Look for tasks that you can outsource to free up your valuable time and allow for more productivity.
Seize the time that you have and truly make the most of it.