Learning to love yourself and find your inner courage


In this day and age, majority of our lives are shared through social media, videos, blogs, etc.

Whether we realise it or not, we tend to let what other people think and perceive us, affect us. Some people accept negativity and shy away from anything postitive, some don’t accept the negativity and only focus on the good. We tend to let interactions alter who we are to change ourselves to fit in what society deems acceptable.

The reality is that no one is perfect and you don’t need me to tell you that. There are people out there that will treat you in a way, which is a reflection of who they truely are. There will be ones who love and accept you for you and not for what your not and the ones who don’t are only temporary people who will eventually fade away and become a distant memory.

Bullying, harassment, even domestic violence are the major leading causes for depression and anxiety, which can lead to death resulting in suicide or even by the hands of other people.

When faced with negativity and criticism, it tends to take a hit to the self esteem, self confidence. When people that say they love us, yet hurt us and we accept that, because of some believe it is love and what a relationship is supposed to be. A relationship can have its issues and problems, but it never makes someone question themselves, it’s doesnt question your worth and most of all a good relationship doesn’t make you uneasy and unhappy.

ive always tried to live by, ‘one persons opinion doesn’t define who I am,’ because each person who knows me, perceives me in a good and bad way. it’s what I think of myself at the end of the day.

i know I’m a good person, I’m honest, reliable, understanding, help out when I can and within my limits. But my faults are, I can be lazy, I overthink and over react, I tend to swear a lot and a tendency to repeat myself. But just because I have my faults, doesn’t mean I’m a horrible person and that I should be condemned because someone else might think and see me differently.

To find yourself love, really think about the positive stuff you do for yourself and others. Know your flaws and accept them, as hard as that may be. If someone is abusing or hurting you, don’t put yourself in danger, don’t accept excuses or justifications as to why they do that to you. Don’t be inconsiderate to other people and make them feel down about themselves, because your feeling that way. Don’t retaliate to negativity and hostility, learn to walk away.

Do good and good things will happen.

Work on your courage, go seek counselling and talk about some of your issues, learn and try to change your way of thinking and frame of mind to be stronger and positive. Learn to enjoy being on your own, when needed be. Take a moment to appreciate the little things in life and do what you need to do to bring yourself peace and happiness.

I suffered from moderate depression for years and it went undiagnosed until 2015, I was in a bad place mentally and emotionally. I faced a lot of negativity in my 29 years of life. I’m now an adult woman, with two daughters of my own. I still have depression, it took almost two years to be in the frame of mind I am in now. I wanted to be stronger and happier in my way of thoughts and frame of mind. When faced with negativity, I accept that is how they feel and think, but I don’t have to accept when they try to put me down. I learned to be my own best friend and enjoy my own company when I wasn’t around others….something I had come along way from, because there was a period I wouldn’t be on my own and I couldn’t be due to my mental health issues. It’s not perfect, but I am a lot better than I was. I didn’t want to be medicated, because I didn’t want a pill to solve how I felt.

Dont expect too much too quickly from yourself. Let go off all the negativity. Let yourself find that peace and happiness and do what you can within reason to make it that much better.

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I'm a mother of two beautiful daughters. I'm very into finding your own inner peace and having the confidence in being comfortable with who you are. Looking after yourself to make yourself feel great and amazing. Im very passionate about mental health awareness, as I've personally had some issues with mental health. I'm also passionate about addressing awareness for domestic violence and suicide. I enjoy helping others and offer advice if needed.


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